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An Open Letter

July 24, 2010 | 3 comments

Dear Friends,

As I sit here writing this heart felt message to my friends I’ve met and those I haven’t, I’m a little sad.

I’m thinking about all of you that I know who have shared how unhappy you are with their lives; how frustrated and angry you are that you’ve put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own for so many years. You are smart, passionate, powerful women with a lot still to offer from formal education and life experience who are such treasures to those who know and love you.

And yet, you’re suffering, you’re feeling lost. I know how that feels.

I came from an unintentionally privileged background. I was born and raised in Guam. At the time my family lived there, there were no grocery stores or department stores where you could buy what you needed, much less what you wanted. So, instead, we traveled. And, so did most of the other people we associated with. I was privileged to visit places like Australia, the Philippines, Jakarta and the rest of the Pacific Islands by the time I was 9. I was sent off-island to boarding schools from the time I was 13. My parents bought land so that I  would be taken care of in my “golden” years.

So I went through ivy league schools, lived a certain lifestyle and had the expectation that I would have that lifestyle as I got older.

Then one day, in the space of a breath, all that was gone. And I don’t mean harder to get to because of a problem with the stock market or something, I mean gone, kaput, never to be regained. My mother died and for some reason kn own only to herself and God, disinherited me. Suddenly, the life I was expecting to live was no longer available to me. Not only that, but I was homeless, with only the clothes on my back, tossed out to live for three weeks in a park waiting for a shelter bed and hiding from the police at night trying to avoid the sprinklers.

It was during this time I recognized that for the first time in my life, I was free; truly free. I was no one’s daughter, no one’s mother, no one’s employee; I was a blank slate. Without my roles to define me, who the hell was I? Good question.

It was also during this time that I came up with the concept of Oughta-Pilots. I’d given up all control over my daily life to someone else and it hadn’t worked out very well, to say the least.

From that point to today, I have been building, creating, carving and hacking out a life of my own making where I am the only one responsible, no matter what happens. I am conscious. I disconnected my external Oughta-Pilots and stepped up and out. I admit, I still have some internal OP’s that I’m dealing with, but it’s getting easier with the help of mentors, friends and loved ones. who know what my dream is.

What I want to tell you is this, plain and simple: you are in control of your life. You are the only one who can determine what happens next for you. If you’re feeling bewildered, I understand, it’s a big life and for those of you, like me, who have something big inside you to do, it’s just plain scary. But we can tackle it together. You are not living in a vacuum. As a new mentor of mine, David Neagle, says, you have to do it by yourself, but you can’t do it alone.

Let me share the journey with you and be there to steady you if you’re uncertain. I’ve said for years that living a created life isn’t easy, but when you have someone on your side and in your corner, it’s a whole lot easier!

As always, with love,

DeBorah

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Your Oughta-Pilot lives in “because”

May 28, 2010 | 3 comments

We’ve talked about what Oughta-Pilots are. But do you know where they hang out? Just when you think you have them handled, one will sneak up and smack you in the face!

Oughta-PilotsTM live in the becauses of your life.

It’s human nature to look for reasons: reasons something did or did not happen, reasons why someone said something, reasons why you haven’t found your dream. Then you create a “because”.

“I’m still in this dead-end job because I need the security of a paycheck.”

“I have to be the best in my class because I need to get into a good college.”

“I have to stay with my husband/wife, we have children.”

Any of these sound familiar? They all have a because and they’re all Oughta-Pilots.

There is a difference between choice and decision. It may be semantics to some, but to those who get it, it’s huge. When you’re being reasonable, that is, having reasons for selecting one alternative over another, you’re making a decision. When you choose, you simply choose because you can. No reasons are necessary. Only decisions need justification.

I think we’ve all become masters at justification, just as we’ve become convinced we need to learn superior decision-making tools. How many workshops have you seen advertised lately offering to teach you the ins and outs of the process? Do you REALLY need to learn new ways to justify your actions?

DYOP Live in July – Portland, OR

I’m holding my first live Disconnect Your Oughta-PilotTM workshop this July in Portland, Oregon. There’s a free preview call on June 16 at 1pm pst. Register here if you’d like to experience a sample of what we’ll cover. I guarantee at the very least it will be one of the more fun hours of your week.

See you there!

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Who’s Running YOUR Life?

April 29, 2010 | No comments

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Are You Running on Oughta-Pilot?

February 24, 2010 | No comments

Are you doing what you were born to do or what you have learned to do? It isn’t always easy to discern the difference. Are you following your heart or your Oughta-Pilot?

What is an Oughta-PilotTM?

The precise definition of Oughta-PilotTM is:

Letting an “ought to” or a “should” be the primary motivation for how you live your life, the choices and decisions you make and the attitudes and feelings that arise therefrom.

Oughta-Pilots can be yours or someone else’s, but they’re stringy and sticky and really hard to get rid of – sort of like the cockroaches in my first apartment.

I spent the first 45 years of my life doing everything others said or thought I “oughta” do. I made myself miserable trying to do and be what my parents, teachers, spouses and so-called friends said I “should”.  It got me nowhere fast. I was suffering because I couldn’t be true to my own Truth.

Then, one day, I woke up and claimed my own BirthRight. Now I live a conscious, created life and take full responsibility for my actions.  And so can you. The time comes when your Truth, your dreams and your desires will no longer be denied or suppressed and you accept your destiny.

I’ve started teaching others how to disconnect their OP’s as well. There is a specific process I have developed and I’m tickled to say, can now share with others. I have folded the process into an all day workshop which I’m scheduling in cities across the country. Contact me to let me know if you’d like me to schedule a workshop in your city.

We’re all trying to do a little better for ourselves, right? Working for things like…

* More Money

* A Better Career

* A More Loving Relationship

* A Healthy Weight and Body Image

* And a “Better Lifestyle” Overall

I’ve got something which can help you do all of this and more. If you…

* need help to define exactly what you want

* need to have your questions answered

* need to learn practices necessary to live a created life

* need to learn specifically how to manifest the health, money, and relationships you yearn for

…then I can help you. :)

My exclusive “Disconnect Your Oughta-PilotTM” program is designed to bring you a new understanding of who you are, what you want and where to go next. You will be ready, willing and able to lead a life of power, passion and possibility.

This is not just for women, men have Oughta-Pilots, too!

I’ll be discussing the process more in future posts.

Are you doing what you were born to do or what you have learned to do? It isn’t always easy to discern the difference.
What is an Oughta-Pilot(tm)?

The precise definition of Oughta-Pilot(tm) is:

Letting an “ought to” or a “should”  be the primary motivation for how you live your life, the choices and decisions you make and the attitudes and feelings that arise therefrom.

Oughta-Pilots can be yours or someone else’s, but they’re stringy and sticky and really hard to get rid of – sort of like the cockroaches in my first apartment.

shame smallI spent the first 47 years of my life doing everything others said or thought I “oughta” do. I made myself miserable trying to do and be what my parents, teachers, spouses and so-called friends said I “should”.  Then, one day, I woke up and claimed my own BirthRight. Now I live a conscious, created life and take responsibility for my actions.

I’ve started teaching others how to disconnect their OP’s as well. There is a specific process I have developed and I’m tickled to say, have folded into a 6-week e-course as well as an all day workshop. The e-course will allow you to work through the process in privacy, but if you want to really turbocharge the experience and get going on a new course, the workshop is the way to go.

We’re all trying to do a little better for ourselves, right? Working for things like…

* More Money
* A Better Career
* A More Loving Relationship
* A Healthy Weight and Body Image
* And a “Better Lifestyle” Overall

I’ve got something which can help you do all of this and more. And over a 6-week period, I want to personally share these things with you. If you…

* need help to define exactly what you want
* need to have your questions answered
* need to learn practices necessary to live a created life
* need to learn specifically how to manifest the health, money, and relationships you yearn for

…then I can help you. :)

My exclusive, 6-week “Disconnect Your Oughta-PilotTM” course is designed to bring you a new understanding of who you are, what you want and where to go next.

The 6-week course includes teleseminars, interactive networking calls, guest speakers, and more. You’ll also be able to discuss everything and get your questions answered in an online forum.

Watch this space to find out when it’s ready to launch.  I’m looking for beta testers now.  If you’re interested in participating, please send me an email at contact (at) oughtapilotgone (dot) com.

Till next time,Are you doing what you were born to do or what you have learned to do? It isn’t always easy to discern the difference.

What is an Oughta-Pilot(tm)?

The precise definition of Oughta-Pilot(tm) is:

Letting an “ought to” or a “should” be the primary motivation for how you live your life, the choices and decisions you make and the attitudes and feelings that arise therefrom.

Oughta-Pilots can be yours or someone else’s, but they’re stringy and sticky and really hard to get rid of – sort of like the cockroaches in my first apartment.

shame smallI spent the first 47 years of my life doing everything others said or thought I “oughta” do. I made myself miserable trying to do and be what my parents, teachers, spouses and so-called friends said I “should”. Then, one day, I woke up and claimed my own BirthRight. Now I live a conscious, created life and take responsibility for my actions.

I’ve started teaching others how to disconnect their OP’s as well. There is a specific process I have developed and I’m tickled to say, have folded into a 6-week e-course as well as an all day workshop. The e-course will allow you to work through the process in privacy, but if you want to really turbocharge the experience and get going on a new course, the workshop is the way to go.

We’re all trying to do a little better for ourselves, right? Working for things like…

* More Money

* A Better Career

* A More Loving Relationship

* A Healthy Weight and Body Image

* And a “Better Lifestyle” Overall

I’ve got something which can help you do all of this and more. And over a 6-week period, I want to personally share these things with you. If you…

* need help to define exactly what you want

* need to have your questions answered

* need to learn practices necessary to live a created life

* need to learn specifically how to manifest the health, money, and relationships you yearn for

…then I can help you. :)

My exclusive, 6-week “Disconnect Your Oughta-PilotTM” course is designed to bring you a new understanding of who you are, what you want and where to go next.

The 6-week course includes teleseminars, interactive networking calls, guest speakers, and more. You’ll also be able to discuss everything and get your questions answered in an online forum.

Watch this space to find out when it’s ready to launch. I’m looking for beta testers now. If you’re interested in participating, please send me an email at contact (at) oughtapilotgone (dot) com.

Till next time,

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Lexicon For You

January 7, 2010 | No comments

Where do we come up with these things? From our own fertile (and I do mean fertile not feeble) brains.

Here’s a quick CLS Lexicon so you can look up words you may not recognize.

I love the English Language and take incredible delight in tearing it apart to look under the hood!

Oughta-Pilot(TM)

An Oughta-Pilot(TM) is that control mechanism that tells you what you “oughta” do. It can come from inside or outside, but it’s always up to less than your level of magnificence.

Planifest

To planifest a dream is to create  a structure or a plan of action that calls a dream into being. When you planifest a dream, you begin with your vision of the dream already created, manifested and real and you look backwards to see what you did to make it so.

Dreambuilding

Dreambuilding is the process of experiencing what it is you dream of first hand.

And more to come!

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