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The Meaning of Life – Or What’s Important

July 13, 2009 | No comments

Had a really interesting year this month. (At least it feels like it was a year). I learned a lot of things about myself and about life choices in general.

I got a call three weeks ago from my only daughter who lives in Portland, Oregon. She was ill and needed me. That in itself sent me down to her side. She didn’t think it was important to tell me HOW ill she was and within minutes of my arriving at her apartment, we were en route to the Emergency Room.

Four days later, she was released from the hospital, very weak and unable to take care of herself so we drove home where I could watch over her for two weeks while she began to get her strength back.

In the middle of all of this chaos, I was trying to run my solopreneur business, make connections I had scheduled and, in general, just keep my business going. I learned a very big lesson, too.

When my focus shifted away from the business, it slowed to a crawl. It wasn’t that things went wrong, it just had been DeBorah-powered and ran out of gas when my attention turned to my beloved daughter instead of it. This was not a good thing. Through my other site, I teach solopreneurs to automate repetitive tasks, outsource administrative and marketing duties unless they’re REALLY good at it and I hadn’t been doing it myself. So, I recognized an opportunity for myself and others.

By the way, my daughter is doing well and is continuing to recover. It will be quite a while, but she’s a little stronger every day.

So, what I’ve come up with is a deeper understanding of what needs to be done as far as passive processes, automated processes and a slightly different focus in what I’m doing and offering to the marketplace.

So, here goes: (By the way – this is the first time I’m sharing this and I wanted to share it with all of you!)

It’s time to automate some of the repetitive tasks the way I coach folks to do on DEBORAHBEATTY.COM. I don’t know why, but it just didn’t occur to me to do it on the Created Life side.

If I’m going to have the kind of lifestyle where I can leave everything to do something that’s important, I cannot risk that things will roll to a stop. I can no longer afford any hesitations or speedbumps if I’m going to realize my goals.

I’m creating a vision board to keep me focused, too.

I’ll keep all of you posted on my progress. Truly, I’m just one of you with triumphs and setbacks and daily frustrations. As I’ve said previously, living a created life is not easy, it takes guts, determination and stubborness. But if you want that life to be full of power, passion and possibility, you need to be committed to the end result so you can blow through all the “stuff” that comes up.

Living A Created Life Isn’t Easy, Folks

April 7, 2009 | 1 comment

In all honesty, I’ve been dealing with a few things. I’m on the same journey you are – to live a life of my own creation.  In my Joys of Failure workshop, I talk about making setbacks into speedbumps instead of mountains.  To do this takes constant attention to intention.

I consider myself fairly adept at overcoming setbacks, at staying focused and living my created life. I’m here to tell you sometimes it stinks! The upside of living your life you have created is that when things go great, you can take credit, celebrate and know you’re responsible. The downside is that when things go badly, you can take credit, celebrate and know you’re responsible.

Rediscover your rainbow

Rediscover your rainbow

Gone is someone or something else outside yourself to blame for the glitch. You have nothing but yourself there as the responsible party. This can make for a tough day, people. But all is not blackness or hopeless.  Because you created the bump, you control how soon you step over it.

A wise teacher I had back in the 80’s used to say to me:

“When you’re having a bad day, it usually because there’s a lesson there and you haven’t paid attention to something until it slaps you on the side of your head.”

She went on to tell me, and this is the most important part (Thank you, Ruth),

“You can’t go around it, you can’t go over it, sidestep it or ignore it – that just makes it worse.  You need to face it head on, go through it, experiencing all of it, the pain and the gain, until you figure out what you were supposed to learn from it.  Then it will settle down.”

My intention is to create a product (at this point, it’s my Oughta-Pilot(TM) program) that will change the way people live their lives so that they are happy, fulfilled and passionate. I choose to be happy, I choose to be financially stable, I choose passion. This week – not so much. So what’s the process for recovering the glow?

  1. Breathe
  2. Be with whatever is there to experience – whether it’s frustration, sadness, depression or whatever. There is something there for you to “get” and use to shore up the foundation for your power. The more you try to avoid the problem, the more insistent it becomes for you to acknowledge it.
  3. Journal/blog/talk about it to get at the burr that’s the irritation.  You may not be able to identify the issue until you say something to a trusted friend or write it down and there it is. But NO WHINING ALLOWED! Ask for support, get lots of hugs  and finally,
  4. Understand that this is only temporary and that, just like a cold or a virus, it will run its course and then be  over.

So, I will continue to work forward, recoup, regroup and recover very soon.  Once you know the process, it  takes a shorter and shorter time time to do it and the tendrils from the experience lose their hold much faster and just go away.

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