About Me
Oughta Pilot Disconnector
Hello. I’m sure your wondering – who is this person? What the hell is an Oughta Pilot and why do I need to disconnect it? Well, I’ll tell you.
I am a Renaissance Woman, a multipotentialite who has been told her whole life what to do, how to do it and for how long. Until the age of 45. At that point my universe crashed and burned and I found myself alone, bereft of family, future, possibility and identity.
Just Gone
What to do? I no longer knew who I was, what role I should play in the world, in life or in anything. I went from a fairly affluent lifestyle to living on the streets in the space of a breath. Everything I had been led to believe would be in place for my future, that had been planned and set it place was gone. Just gone.
Losing everything that way can put a serious damper on your enthusiasm for continuing to exist, I can tell you. But I found my Self, my passion, and my possibility and created a life I am thrilled to wake up to every morning. And that’s what I help others do, too.
In 1997, I came up with the premise that we start our lives on autopilot doing what we’ve been taught/told to do without question. As we grow up, the conditioning doesn’t go away even if we learn things are different. We still follow ought tos and shoulds. And we do it unconsciously. It occurred to me we weren’t living on autopilot, we were living on oughta pilot.
I help Disappointed Dreamers pick their butts up off the floor and fly. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. But if you’re willing to work hard on yourself and create a life you love, you don’t mind a little snark, a little rough language and having fun along the way, I’m your gal!
No More Someday, Now is NOW
Anxiety, repressed anger and resentment keep us from enjoying out lives. In new experiences, we are waiting for “that thing” to happen again so we hold back from enjoying life fully out of protection and self-preservation. We would like to let it go but we fear getting hurt again.
It is possible to change the way we relate to the things that have caused us pain in the past; that break in trust that has been such a deep wound. But we need the right person to guide us through it or it won’t happen.
You can recover from the pain and leftover effects of having been betrayed by yourself, but it is easier and faster to do it in a safe environment with someone who knows how it feels to have trust violated and holds your Trust as a sacred charter, knows what it takes to resolve issues and knows what pitfalls can be waiting.
Then you can let down your guard, relax your vigilance and take the time and space you need to heal, nourish, and begin anew.
I help Disappointed Dreamers go from betrayed to badass. If this is you:
+ Learn to stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
+ Transform your past to fully experience the joys of NOW.
+ Stop living on “Oughta Pilot” to create lives of power, passion and possibility.
If you are ready to reignite your dreams and embrace YOUR Created Life, I have a Personal Discovery Session so you can get a taste of me, my programs and see if they fit your needs.
Think of me as your Oughta Pilot Disconnector, helping you let go of stories and inner conversations that don’t serve you and connect with the life you want to create.
The Living A Created Life Methodology
The Living A Created Life program is the cornerstone of my practice. It consists of 9 segments designed to stand alone or fit together.
Segment 1 - Living On Oughta Pilot
Rediscovering and Embracing Your Authentic Self.
Are you doing you or are your living on Oughta Pilot? Embracing the life you were born to live isn’t easy. It takes courage and a willingness to look at where you’ve given access to others to make decisions for you, tell you what you should be doing and set your path to fulfill their goals.
Together let’s look at reawakening, re-visioning and reclaiming your Authentic Self.
Segment 2 - Watch Your Mouth! Your Subconscious Is Listening
Segment 3 - Shake Your Meaning Maker
These are all statements we hear all the time. Human beings are Meaning Making Machines. If nobody gives us a meaning for something that happens, we make one up! And, since the meaning we give to the event becomes so embedded in our minds, we can’t remember we made it up in the first place. So, we feel powerless to change it and the meaning becomes dogmatic.
Human beings are compelled to find meaning in their lives. We can’t help it: everything means something. Most of it is story. You made it up. You can change it. I’ll work with yu to discoveer what meanings you’ve created for the events, even traumas, and provide a transition to a new story.
Sh-tuff happens. But how we interpret it is up to us. It is your passed/past. They are memories. They don’t have to keep triggering emotional reactions.
Segment 4 - The Joys of Failure
Ever wish you could have a do-over? Think you’ll never amount to much considering what yur life has been so far?
When you can learn to see failures as only a bump in the road instead of a wall to stop you, then you can begin to celebrate them. If you wind up falling on your ass, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start again. Keeping your focus on your dream, your vision, living it, tasting it, immersing yourself in it 1000% draws that dream to you.
Segment 5 - FOCUS On Your Vision
Segment 6 - From Betrayal to Badass - Your Life On Your Terms
Working with me, you can let down your guard, relax your vigilance and take the time and space you need to heal, nourish, and begin anew. I will hold the Space, I will hold your Trust inviolate and true.