Walking the Betrayal to Badass Path
We’re all human, we’re all wounded. It’s what we do with the scar tissue that matters.
betrayal (noun)
be.tray.al plural betrayals
1. The act of betraying someone or something or the fact of being betrayed: violation of a person’s trust or confidence, of a moral standard, etc.
Examples:
Physical (illness, self-image, damage to something cherished)
Career (being passed over for promotion, layoffs, toxic workplaces)
Self (not fulfilling a goal, shoulds, Oughta Pilots*)
2. Revelation of something hidden or secret
A betrayal of one’s true feelings
Do you ever feel stuck, overwhelmed, fearful or out of control of your own life? Betrayal may just be at the heart of the issue. Do you ever feel
- You are just going through the motions?
- Physically exhausted without the energy to even try to change things?
- Unfulfilled?
- Unhappy?
Imagine, if you can, how it would feel to be confident that you are living the life you choose, the way you choose, you’re happy, fulfilled and excited every single day to embrace whatever shows up. Can you do it?
Even as you read this, is your heart rate picking up, your breathing getting harder, and your stomach knotting up at the thought of changing things?
ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT THE LAST TIME YOU TRIED TO CHANGE AND YOU FAILED?
What if you had a four-month course that just allows you to understand who you are, become aware of your language, shift your language, actually begin to take ownership over what you’re making meaning of in the world and then understanding that actually, everything I do is okay, because nothing is really failure. Would that be something valuable? It can happen.
The Whole Enchilada
The Betrayal to Badass Path is the backbone of my practice. It comes from my own history of finding my way back after losing everything and consists of 9 Stepping Stones designed to stand alone or fit together and informs every program I offer.
Each segment of the Program lasts 6 weeks followed by a 90 day follow up period. For detailed information about each step, click the dots below.
There are three segments within the Program – the Toolkit, The Foundation and the Launchpad.
The Toolkit teaches you tools necessary to live a Created Life. With these tools, you build The Foundation where you make the pivot from what always has been to what’s possible and gives you a safe space to develop your muscle and a sturdy support upon which to take your stand. Lastly, The Launchpad is taking it “out there” into your life and into the world. At this point you are no longer the same person you were when you began and those you know and love are going to need you to introduce them to the new You.
In each of the Stepping Stones on the Path, we work together to discern where you’ve been listening to Oughta Pilots, those “shoulds” and “ought-to’s that rob you of your ability to choose, work to disconnect them and move you forward on your journey.
You get:
- Weekly calls on Zoom with 1:1 sessions at the end of each module to clarify issues, and move you to the next step.
- Modules are live on Zoom. Each module will have interactive exercises and assignments to gain deep clarity for you to work on offline and email to me and receive personalized, confidential feedback.
- A physical copy of my book, Disconnect Your Oughta Pilot.
- Discounts on products from my store
It’s easy to just sign up for programs and work independently. However, where the growth occurs is with guidance from someone who has done what you’re doing, someone who is a little further along the journey and has wisdom to share. I have been where you are and have worked through the fog to get to where I am today. Now I am called to teach what I’ve learned.
My programs come from a deep listening of where you want to go, what you want to do, and who you want to be.
Each module in the Path is designed to bring a specific result. They’re designed to build on each other so I recommend they be taken in order, but it is not necessary.
The 9 Modules
Each module in the Path is designed to bring a specific result. They’re designed to build on each other so I recommend they be taken in order.
Module T1: Who Are You Really?
Rediscovering and Embracing Your Authentic Self.
Are you doing you or are your living on Oughta Pilot? Embracing the life you were born to live isn’t easy. It takes courage and a willingness to look at where you’ve given access to others to make decisions for you, tell you what you should be doing and set your path to fulfill their goals.
Together we look at reawakening, re-visioning and reclaiming your Authentic Self.
Part 1 – Toolkit
Module T2: Watch Your mouth, your subconscious is listening
Your internal dialog can make or break you. We all have a personal DJ spinning old scratchy records and tapes we can’t help but listen to. Getting deep into our media library is half the battle. Once there, though, you can fire your DJ and get back in touch with your Original Song; the one only you can sing and the one you are here to contribute to the chorus of humanity.
Part 2 – Toolkit
Module T3: Shake your meaning maker
What did they mean by that? What does it all mean? It’s gotta mean something…
These are all statements we hear all the time. Human beings are Meaning Making Machines. If nobody gives us a meaning for something that happens, we make one up! And, since the meaning we give to the event becomes so embedded in our minds, we can’t remember we made it up in the first place. So, we feel powerless to change it and the meaning becomes dogmatic.
Human beings are compelled to find meaning in their lives. We can’t help it: everything means something. Most of it is story. You made it up. You can change it. I’ll work with yu to discoveer what meanings you’ve created for the events, even traumas, and provide a transition to a new story.
Sh-tuff happens. But how we interpret it is up to us. It is your passed/past. They are memories. They don’t have to keep triggering emotional reactions.
Part 3 – Toolkit
Module T4: The joys of failure
Or the fine art of falling on your face.
Ever wish you could have a do-over? Think you’ll never amount to much considering what yur life has been so far?
When you can learn to see failures as only a bump in the road instead of a wall to stop you, then you can begin to celebrate them. If you wind up falling on your ass, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start again. Keeping your focus on your dream, your vision, living it, tasting it, immersing yourself in it
Part 4 – Create Your Life Toolkit
Module F1: FOCUs on your vision
There are several pieces to FOCUS
- Fierce devotion
- Optimizing YOUR time and resources
- Creating new possibilities
- Understanding what it is you want
- Seeing the goal before it happens
Goals are good things, but are they achievable. We’ll look at that as we design them together. .
Part 1 – Foundation – Using the Toolkit
Module F2: Betrayal to badass - your life on your terms
You can recover from the pain and leftover effects of having been betrayed by yourself, but it is easier and faster to do it in a safe environment with someone who knows how it feels to have trust violated and holds your Trust as a sacred charter, knows what it takes to resolve issues and knows what pitfalls can be waiting.
Working with me, you can let down your guard, relax your vigilance and take the time and space you need to heal, nourish, and begin anew. I will hold the Space, I will hold your Trust inviolate and true.
Being a BADASS is a good thing. First, it means you do and want things your way with Power, Passion and Possibility and make no apologies for it.
When you feel powerful, you act with more confidence, less fear and more joy. When you are passionate about your lives and your beloveds, you live with more energy, embracing and attracting those things you desire. When you are present to possibility, the sky is the limit and you are unstoppable in their pursuit of what they desire.
Become a BADASS – be
Bodacious
Assertive
Determined
Approachable
Serene and
Secure!
Part 2 – Foundation – Using the Toolkit
Module F3: Re-Visioning Your Life
Where do we go from here? Yes, there are wounds, yes, unresolved issues, yes, sticking points and hesitations. But together they make you who and what you are in this moment. There is no someday, no yesterday or even “later”. All we have is now, and now, and NOW!
In this moment, wherever we are, whatever we have as history, you can determine what you do with it. We are all wounded, we are all human, it’s what we do with the scar tissue that matters!
Part 3 – Foundation – Using the Toolkit
Module L1: Recognizing Upportunities - opportunities for growth
Opportunity and Possibility is everywhere. How do you identify the ones you want to take advantage of? What are the parameters you want to set? And how do you keep track of the ones you’ve picked. Just like flowers in a bouquet, you need a container to hold them within so they can continue to be visible, healthy and lush. We create one here.
Part 1 – Launchpad – Moving On Out
Module L2: Planifesting - planning to manifest
Planning to manifest and manifesting your dream is one of the ultimate challenges for Dreamers. We will go through the steps, options and alternatives to planning structures and create one that works for you. We’ll also be talking about ways to introduce your personal community to the new you!
Part 2 – Launchpad – Moving On Out
No more someday… Now is NOW
Price of the Program is as follows:
Toolkit – US$1299
Foundation – US$997
Launchpad – US$997
Total cost if taken individually – US$3293
Total Program – US$3000 – Make a one time payment and save an additional 30%
Other:
Deep Soul Dive Discovery Session – $75*
Ongoing Coaching – $125/hr**
* All segments within the modules include a complimentary 1:1 Live Soul Dive Session (60 min). If more sessions are desired, first support call will be $75 and others at the ongoing coaching rate**
**Rollup – If you choose to sign up for a larger commitment within 10 days of completing any of my programs, 25% of the fee paid will be applied to the next program.
As always, if anything sparks the need for a conversation, please reach out to me.
Strategies For Living A Created Life
I started Created Life Strategies in 2004, originally to help others who had survived a devastating loss pick up the pieces and create their own life out of the shards at their feet. My first program was taken from my book, Disconnect Your Oughta Pilot. From there, the work evolved to where it is now.
The work is personal, proven and experiential.
I use my firsthand knowledge of what it takes to start over, how hard it is to see what is available and how much intestinal fortitude and soul searching it takes to just begin,
When you give up your voices, your dreams, and your belief you can manifest miracles you become frustrated, angry, and depressed. My work is a way out of the darkness to reclamation, reinvention and release.
We are all human, we are all wounded, it’s what we do with our scar tissue that matters.
When you are Bodacious, Assertive, Determined, Approachable, Serene and Secure, you can lead a Created Life of Power, Passion and Possibility.
Personal Healing
On a personal level, when you can be present to what is available by living Created Lives, you can step into your Power, rekindle your Passion and open yourself to Possibility. You will be able to let go of your passed (yes, I said passed) and design your future on your terms and live the life you were born to live, not the one you’ve been told to live.
Proven
I have lived what I teach. I stand as proof my process works.
I offer my foibles, my missteps, and my failures to help you see just what it takes and that the Work has developed from trial and error. Living a Created Life isn’t easy. It takes work and it takes courage. It can be done and I can show you how.
Experiential
I use exercises to gain new clarity, separate the facts from the stories, and show you how to say what you want and have others hear you. You will experience a different state of being as you work through the things that you’ve discovered hold you back. We’ll do it together in a safe space.
World Healing
In the grand scheme of things, if more people are present to what is available by living created lives of power, passion and possibility, there is an acknowledgment of responsibility for ourselves by taking responsibility for others. The violence of hatred and ideological warfare can be given up in favor of dialog and empathy.